How Chestnut Bud can prevent you from making the same mistakes

Do you find yourself back in the same situation again and again? Maybe relationship-wise, you always pick the same “type” that doesn’t work well with you, or may echo unresolved relationship dynamics from your past that feel familiar, and in some cases, the familiarity represents a kind of safety – and yet here you are again, attracted to something that is either not good for you, or maybe even corrupt.

The learning from it isn’t happening. Sometimes the person or people or situation can look different. But under scrutiny, when you investigate it, you will find that it is actually the same! 

This is not a happy discovery, and this is when you will reach out and be curious enough to find out why the pattern is the same.

When we are in the positive, harmonious Chestnut Bud state, we have learned valuable lessons which are integrated into how we engage, what and whom we choose to associate with, and this wisdom is innate.

However, when we are not in the positive development of learning but instead stuck in a version of Groundhog Day, we have not absorbed the wisdom that can be gained by an experience that was or is unfavourable, and we feel stuck and thwarted almost by our own hand.

This is so common, and l have come across needing to prescribe this wonderful flower so many times, often also for myself. It is as though there is some kind of block that prevents something from registering.

How taking Chestnut Bud can change this and help us 

Chestnut Bud is the perfect flower for maturity of experience and thought, and also perspective. It helps us remember, and it is marvellous for making progress. It can help with learning difficulties, too.

I have had a lot of patients who have come to me because they keep on choosing people to have relationships with that appear different at first, but turn out to be similar to those in the past that have not worked out. I have found Chestnut Bud helpful when someone has had a distant relationship in childhood with a parent, and then picks someone who is similar. All the pain that was unresolved can then feel overwhelming.

A lovely woman found herself in a relationship with a man who kept on disappearing. She then wouldn’t hear from him for days on end, and then he would reappear, always, of course, with some kind of what could be considered as 'justifiable' reason. When he disappeared, she would go through deep torment.

After a long consultation, she told me that when she was very young, her father just left home one day and never came back. In fact, she never saw him again. She had completely put this out of her mind, but here she was as a mature woman choosing a man who was the same, and couldn’t understand why the pain she felt was so intense.

Chestnut Bud helped her enormously in the process of assimilating the pain of her father’s disappearance and the need to choose a man who might do the same. The need to prove she was valued was replaced by her being able to value herself and, thereafter, make better choices.

It is good to ask ourselves: 'What is the lesson here, and how can I learn from it?' It will come to you.