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Hi, thank you for looking at my page. I am Professional Performance Coach and Complimentary Therapist living in Bournemouth Dorset. My interest in the Army was established at an early age (Aldershot was my home town a large Army Garrison), and this helped me overcome early life challenges by focussing on what I wanted to achieve.
My Army Experience
Not content with the idea of a normal Army career, I chose to try for The Parachute Regiment and follow in my father's footsteps. I then applied for service with the Special Forces 6 years later. To facilitate this I had to learn how to set goals and work towards them and to learn from inevitable setbacks - the journey was not a straight one, and, one thing is for sure the mantra of: 'there is no failure, only "feedback" is very much true, if you have the mental flexibility to accept that. Learning from adversity and trying again to succeed has been a theme in my life - one that has been positive in terms of self development and by way of developing Emotional Intelligence. I feel that my skills as a coach are hugely enhanced by these experiences.
Coaching: Personal Attributes
My interest in coaching came towards the later part of a successful 25 year army career. Having spent most of my career with both the Parachute Regiment and Special Forces, and driven by a desire to be the best I could be in whatever he chose to do, I had, on reflection, consistently displayed an ability to focus and learn the necessary 'Knowledge and Skills' and develop the necessary 'Attitudes' to achieve my goals. Something I am passionate about, and something I want to share with others and to help them achieve their goals. In essence to 'be the Coach I never had' to others.
Peak Performance - within the context of the army is something I consistently achieved. To facilitate this I learned, applied and demonstrated the required attitudes during what are generally considered as some of the toughest military selection and training processes in the world. There definitely comes a point where attitude is, as important, if not more important, than physical attributes. Additionally I have overcome several personally challenging situations/experiences which have given me experience and maturity and ultimately developed my 'Emotional Intelligence' which I can now use to help people achieve results.
Coaching: Understanding 'The Inner Game'
In the later stages of my career I was a Senior Manager, turning my attention to the Training and Development of people within this niche military group. This is where I was exposed to Coaching as a Leadership, Management, Communication and Training model. Where I also learned the psychology behind the processes I had applied to myself to achieve my goals.
Coaching may be used to not only develop individual knowledge skills and the ability to learn but more importantly to develop useful attitudes that achieve results. This is something I am passionate about, and is something that I recognised that Specialist Forces naturally utilise and develop - a 'can do', positive, proactive & empowered attitude to effectively meet operational challenges.
Empowered people typically have the belief system and supporting attitudes to support being self-motivated, self-directed and self-actualising and actively seek results to problems before they become a crisis - something that is key in the challenges of life and business/career environments. These elements are, in my experience the key attributes to success. Key here however is that everyone has the same potential to achieve greatness, but they get in their own way, they lose 'the inner game'.
Complimentary Therapies, Making Peace with your Past!
As well as a wealth of life and Coaching experiences I have also had to deal with a range of emotional challenges, as well as the challenge of leaving the army after so long - which is something that takes time to adjust to I can assure you. Understanding negative effects of our own psychology, emotions and beliefs is important to me as it is in this area that 'Transpersonal' Coaching comes into play.
My Own Emotional Challenges and EFT
To add to my coaching skills I elected to learn some complimentary & therapeutic approaches for dealing with negative emotions and beliefs, as well as traumas. This interest came after a quick experience of Emotional Freedom Techniques or Tapping at an NLP Forum Meeting I attended. In what I can only describe as a profound experience, my negative emotions and thoughts about a particular issue disappeared in about 5 minutes! I had to know more, so read several books and attended training in EFT & Matrix ReImprinting.
In this process I worked on some aspects from my life that I thought did not bother me anymore. The truth was I had just put them away but never fully dealt with them (witnessing a very serious Road Traffic Accident when young, the death of my mother when I was 11 years old, being caught in an explosion in a training incident as a paratrooper). Approaches like NLP, EFT and FasterEFT have really helped me make sense of and heal those aspects of my past. They have also been fundamental to helping me deal with the emotional challenges of leaving the forces. Achieving goals and results is fine when you are doing what you love - but to leave the army and to try to find purpose afterwards has been very difficult at times. In short, I had been very lost at times, but the tools and techniques I have learned have helped me gain emotional balance again, to be happy, more fulfilled and in control. Happiness very much is an inside job - it is just our outdated beliefs and programs hold us back. I have learned to overcome these challenges and have also learned how to help others do the same. Something I am passionate about and want to share. To help people be the very best versions of themselves that they can be!
EFT and its variations can be used to work on a wide range of things such as Sadness, Fears, Emotional Traumas, Anger, Resentment, Guilt, Judgement, Abandonment, Betrayals, PTSD, and can help people access a more helpful psychology in helping to overcome the effects of illness and disease. A positive psychology, gained through clearing out our 'crap' and letting go of old ways of thinking can really help to tip the balance with our physiology and the body's ability to heal. The power of the mind is very powerful if you can learn how to use it.
Over the last 7 years I have gained the following qualifications academically, coaching, training and learning development as well as exploring complimentary therapies in relation to unlocking unhelpful patterns and mental blocks to behaviour that block performance and living a fulfilled life:
Coaching, Mentoring and TrainingTo find out more about Coaching and the Therapeutic Approaches I can use please visit my website: http://www.paulclare.co.uk
Training, qualifications & experience
Attitude Change Technology (ACT) Master Practitioner Coach (Level 7)
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Practitioner
UK Army Master Coach
(UK Defence) Train the Trainer (DTTT)
ILM Level 3 Certificate in Coaching and Mentoring
Certificate in Teaching in the Life Long Sector
NLP Master Practitioner
'Faster EFT' Level 3 Practitioner
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Level 3 Practitioner
Matrix Re-Imprinting Practitioner
Time Line Therapy Practitioner
Hypnosis Practitioner (non clinical)
I am happy to meet/discuss with potential clients and to find out more about their problems and to discuss how I might be able to help them. This initial consultation is usually 30 minutes to one hour and is free.
My fees are £65.00 per hour.
Sessions are usually 1-2 hours.
I can arrange this if clients are interested. Please ask for details.
I can work over Phone or Skype, but prefer to have at least one face to face session first to be sure that the client is in the correct place for this approach.
My values for what I do are to provide a safe environment for clients to discover how to solve their issues whilst maintaining:
- Integrity - at all times
- Safety - for my clients to explore their issues at their pace
- Guiding - clients into suitable insights, learnigns, solutions
- Empathy - Empathic to the clients situation and needs
- Flexibility - To be flexible in my behaviour and the tools I use to get results
- Professional Service - Maintaining my professional service, Insurance, Personal Development and Supervision and above all Discretion
- Results Orientated - to help the client identify and reach their therapeutic goals
- Understanding - having been through these processes myself, and resolving my own issues, to show the client that I understand how to resolve their issues and how to maintain their own emotional balance and control
- Also registered with Life Coach Directory
If you have been diagnosed with or suspect you may have a pre-existing medical condition you should consult your GP for advice, diagnosis and treatment and always inform your health professional before starting any alternative or additional therapies, treatments or making any major changes in your diet or exercise programme.
Maps & Directions
Currently available in the Bournemouth area, happy to talk to people to find out how I can help them solve their problems